Confusing Your Loved One and the Addiction

Confusing Your Loved One and the AddictionWhen you know and love someone who has become an addict in Seattle, you may feel that the person you love has changed and is now entirely different. It is hard to see the true personality underneath the addictive behavior, but your loved one is still with you. Learning to distinguish the person from the addiction is crucial to helping him or her recover.

Once the dependency is firm in Seattle, your loved one will most likely begin to manipulate the relationship you had before the addiction in order to get you to help him or her. Addictive behaviors meant to achieve this end include the following:

  • Lying about recent activities or whereabouts in Seattle
  • Acting like he or she can’t wait to spend time with you, then making up an excuse to leave quickly once he or she has obtained whatever he or she was planning to ask from you
  • Making up emotional stories to guilt you into providing him or her with money or other necessities
  • Treating you badly, then making you believe that it was your fault, and he or she wouldn’t have treated you so if he or she had been him or herself or if you hadn’t provoked him or her
  • Promising to stop the habit in Seattle after just one more hit, party, or vacation, then breaking the promise

Such manipulative actions often ruin the relationships of addicts. Their loved ones often continue to be used for months or years to their emotional and financial detriment in Seattle because they want to believe that if they tolerate the behavior the person they love will eventually keep his or her word and end the addiction. Unfortunately, it is not that simple in Seattle. Addiction is a disease that is overcome by cooperation with therapy, not by sheer willpower.

Setting Boundaries with an Addict

Once an addict’s loved ones recognize the truth, some boundaries in Seattle can be set:

  • Limited contact
  • Withdrawal of support
  • Enlistment of other concerned family members and close friends who see the addiction and want it to stop
  • Total cutoff of communication if the addict refuses to enter treatment

Addiction intervention under the guidance of a family mediator is frequently the best way to set these limits in Seattle. It is important to establish such boundaries while clearly communicating the loving intent behind them: you want the addict to get better. Your loved one buried beneath the addiction may be hurt or alienated if you treat him or her with anger. Don’t lash out at him or her as if he or she were the addiction; he or she is merely the first victim of it, and you want to see him or her freed in Seattle.

Finding Out More about Addiction Recovery

If addiction has taken your loved one in Seattle, please call our toll-free, 24 hour helpline today for encouragement and advice on how to help break addiction’s power over the person in your life. We are waiting to help you; give us a call today.